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Bonita is a recovering perfectionist, unapologetic word nerd, and passionate believer in the power of choosing your narrative. With a background in business strategy, coaching, and a lifelong fascination with words, she brings heart and humour to the messy, beautiful process of becoming who you are. She challenges readers to question the invisible scripts shaping their lives, reminding them that life isn't a box to squeeze into - it's a story you get to write.
If you've ever asked, "Is this really me?" or "How the hell did I end up here?" this book is your companion.
When not writing or helping companies connect strategy and words, Bonita is on the Padel court or travelling with her wife. In tough times, she reminds herself she's never stuck - just pausing between chapters.
This book is her invitation to courageously rewrite what no longer fits, authoring the story of your choice, because your words matter. And so do you.
ISBN : 978-1-83543-093-4
Published: 11/09/2025
Pages : 396
Size : 205x140
Imprint : Olympia Publishers
Who Are You Becoming: Exploring How Words Shape Your Life and Craft Your Future shares key insights from Bonita's personal journey of discovery, transformation and her long search for the truth she believes truly sets her free. She takes the reader along her path of awakening as a young adult, dealing with her alternative sexuality within a very traditional religious family and an extremely conventional social environment. The essence of the book is the sharing of her realisation that we all live in the stories we tell and repeat, and that the words we use to tell these stories matter far more than most realise. Together with the reader, she explores just how our stories craft either the prisons within which we are trapped or shape palaces of possibilities. She asks the reader to take a real look, possibly for the very first time, at whether their daily, repeated words are crafting prisons or palaces, limiting possibilities or opening up possibilities.